Inspiration

“People Complete Projects Not Other People.”

“People Complete Projects Not Other People.”

No one can make another whole.

When we look outside ourselves for solutions or for personal growth, we commit ourselves to an illusion and set ourselves up for failure. While others may inspire or motivate us, it is we who are the intrinsic ingredient in us becoming who we are meant to be.

“The Trial Is Not About The Tragedy, But The Triumph.”

“The Trial Is Not About The Tragedy, But The Triumph.”

When we are confronted with challenges and struggles, it is natural for us to become consumed with what we are forced to endure: the discomfort, the sadness, the suffering, and the hardship.

The pain blinds us. Our suffering is even amplified as we recount our woes to whoever will listen. Momentarily, it offers us relief, but in the end, we are left frustrated, unsatisfied, empty, and overwhelmed.

“Persistence Breaks The Will Of The Impossible.”

“Persistence Breaks The Will Of The Impossible.”

Most people aren’t born wealthy or with unparalleled, athletic prowess, intellectual genius, or artistic mastery. The fate or destiny of many is often dictated by their hard work, focus, discipline, faith, and commitment to their goals. All these together comprise persistence.

It is the job seeker’s submission of yet another application and resume after years of “thank you for your interest letters” and no interviews; the aspiring author’s continued agent queries on his supposedly, unmarketable, all-American novel; or the aspiring actor with no experience, who travels to New York, works as a waiter or bartender at night and takes acting classes and auditions for roles during the day in pursuit of a successful acting career.

“No One Is Fast Enough To Run Away From One’s Self.”

“No One Is Fast Enough To Run Away From One’s Self.”

Change requires real work.

Often times, people equate or hope to achieve personal change by altering their circumstances or by changing those whom they associate with. They seek new jobs. They pursue additional training or undergraduate, graduate or doctoral degrees. They learn foreign languages. They join professional organizations, as well as Greek-lettered fraternities and sororities as well as civic and community organizations. They also attempt to broaden their personal circles of influence by attending professional networking events and meet ups.

“Forgiveness Is Earned With The Heart Before Sought With The Lips.”

“Forgiveness Is Earned With The Heart Before Sought With The Lips.”

Forgiveness is healing. It is a balm for both the injured and those who caused the injury. When we wrong, injure or betray someone whether it is physical, or most often, emotional, we cannot simply ask for forgiveness.

 

Ironically, and most importantly, the injured must first forgive themselves for the blame and guilt they often unconsciously feel before finally forgiving the person responsible for the wrong.

“Society’s Most Generous Offering Is Usually Its Ignorance.”

“Society’s Most Generous Offering Is Usually Its Ignorance.”

Sadly, people rarely rise above themselves or their most base nature.

Disrespect, prejudgment, bigotry, sexism, Islamaphobia, gossip and just plain meanness are in abundance these days. It’s similar to a mob mentality, where the public continues to encourage and escalate with each occurrence.

“Silence Often Makes One An Accomplice.”

“Silence Often Makes One An Accomplice.”

We live in a world of voyeurs.

When people need help, people are more inclined to first use their cellular phones to record the video rather than call for help.

Some silently listen and immerse themselves in gossip without a challenging word, allowing others to be humiliated, defamed and even slandered behind their backs.

“Our First Love Affair Must Always Be With Ourselves.”

“Our First Love Affair Must Always Be With Ourselves.”

We should never love anyone more than we love ourselves.

Still, we swear their undying love to others, make sacrifices for them and tolerate their mistreatment despite how it negates our goals, dreams, humanity and self-love.

“Rest Is For The Rest.”

“Rest Is For The Rest.”

Life is a never-ending journey of self-improvement, or at least, it should be. Those extraordinary people among us know this. They realize that they are not genetically predisposed for greatness. Instead, they perceive the world, themselves and time differently from others.

For them, the world is an endless classroom or quest. They see themselves as students, knights, explorers or treasure hunters. Each day, they strive to gain more knowledge, conquer more powerful kingdoms, explore more foreign territories; and immense more jewels and treasures.

“Our Goodwill Should Not Surpass Our Good Sense.”

“Our Goodwill Should Not Surpass Our Good Sense.”

Some people seem to always need our help.

They live through an ongoing dilemma. They need a ride to work or a babysitter. They’re behind on their rent. They can’t pay their bills. Don’t have gas money. They never seem to have enough money when they plan to or go out with us.

And most of all, they always need or ask for a loan.

"We Are Always The Perfect Us, But The Imperfect Somebody Else.”

"We Are Always The Perfect Us, But The Imperfect Somebody Else.”

Despite how others want or think we should be, we have already been perfectly defined to be who we are. When people say we are imperfect, they focus on our present shortcomings or measure us against others, who have reached their lives’ ideal destinations.

In doing so, they fail to understand the necessity and impact of our current or past experiences on our lives, or fail to compensate for where each person is in their own development or journey.

“The Most Dangerous Criminal Steals Our Time.”

“The Most Dangerous Criminal Steals Our Time.”

Security systems and vicious dogs protect our homes. Safes, safety deposit boxes, and banks secure our jewelry, stocks, bonds, cash and our most important documents. Companies also are paid to protect our identities from theft, and ultimately, fraud.

But we do little, if anything, to safeguard our most precious commodity and treasure – our time. For without it, ironically, nothing gets done and we fail to become what we were meant to be.

“Life Has No Dead Ends Only Creative Detours Forward.”

“Life Has No Dead Ends Only Creative Detours Forward.”

When we suffer romantic break-ups and divorce, job loss, academic failures, criminal arrests and records, as well as, poor health, we are at a loss of what to do next. Our future prospects, at best, seem bleak, and for some, our world seems over.

We tell ourselves no one will want us or love us again. We don’t know how to do anything else. We are not smart enough. No one will hire us. Everyone will always see us for our past. We will never get better or will even die soon. .

“People’s Perceptions Are More A Reflection Of Their Capacity Than Of Reality.”

“People’s Perceptions Are More A Reflection Of Their Capacity Than Of Reality.”

Perception is said to become reality. And because of that, some people constantly review how others perceive them, and subsequently attempt to adjust their speech, actions, dress and tastes to reflect what they want others to believe to no avail.

Ultimately, people see what they “think” they understand, and almost always allow what they are unconsciously obsessed with or what they are attracted to as the primary influence to their interpretation.

“No One Will Do What One Refuses To Do For One’s Self.”

“No One Will Do What One Refuses To Do For One’s Self.”

For many people, fulfillment is sought elsewhere.

We want others to respect us so we do what we think they expect of us.

We want others to love us so we deny ourselves to do for them.

We expect others to make us happy and complete so we wait, and ultimately, disappoint ourselves when they do not.

“Mosquitoes Don’t Deter Giants.”

“Mosquitoes Don’t Deter Giants.”

When we reminisce about our problems as children or teenagers, they now seem miniscule and unimportant. And mostly, they were. At the time, however, they were earth-shattering, and ironically, marked the end our world, over and over again.

Still, we somehow survived the catastrophe to see and overcome the next.  With age, we seem to forget that.

“One’s Past Does Not Require Visitors.”

“One’s Past Does Not Require Visitors.”

For many, the past is both personified and immortalized. It becomes special – a demon that haunts us or a jailer that imprisons us, not only temporarily, but for an eternity. We return to it, obsessed over it, and visit it almost incessantly.

“Time Unmasks Imposters.”

“Time Unmasks Imposters.”

People will always appear as we want them to be, until, of course, they are not. 

With our friendships and intimate relationships, we have an idea or archetype in our mind of who our friends and lovers should, or will be. 

“Those Who Are Eagerly Remembered In Death Are Often Hastily Forgotten In Life.”

“Those Who Are Eagerly Remembered In Death Are Often Hastily Forgotten In Life.”

The great and legendary are rarely acknowledged as such while they are living.  The reason is that during their defining moments what made many of them great was that they most often stood against the masses or triumphed in the face of overwhelming odds.

Most didn’t hide behind the times, but instead faced them head on.  Actually, many were ahead of their times in both vision and decision.

“One’s Valley Is Another’s Mountain Top.”

“One’s Valley Is Another’s Mountain Top.”

When we are at our lowest, we often suffer in the confines of our own small world.  We close our eyes and ears to the suffering around us and shroud ourselves in our own misery.  Ours is the worst pain ever experienced and no one else knows, or has overcome such hardship. 

At least, that’s what we tell ourselves.