When we are at our lowest, we must be our most cautious. We are fighting for our survival while our enemies are envisioning our demise and believing it is inevitable. Any wrong move we make could tip the scale in their favor and make it game over.
The help that we wish for usually does not come as perfectly as we imagine. If it does, it usually is a trick, or a trap to further ensnare us or hammer the final nail into our coffins.
Desperation is powerful bait. We are thirsty and a bubbling brook is before us. We are hungry and succulent fruit dangles from trees within our reach. So, we blindly run to them.
The desperate make hasty, emotional decisions. They often give away too much, but almost always receive too little or nothing at all in return. Most importantly, desperation turns our allies against us and ultimately offers our enemies needed troops for their depleted army and ammunition for their empty guns.
Many have fallen for the same, and soon, they too learn that the pursued blessing was nothing more than a mirage or a ruse when it’s too late. Suddenly, they find themselves placed in a much more precarious situation, forced to withstand yet another round of attacks or dealt the final, death blow.
Our most necessary blessing will likely not appear as a blessing at all. Some may see it as a compromise of their pride that belittles or humbles them. For others, it will simply be a waste of time and effort that will change little.
While being the truest solution, it will often be a difficult, uncomfortable one. It will require us to sacrifice something, to do something we would rather not do, like require us to change ourselves.
That requirement is usually too much for most and they quickly refuse.
For us to properly discern, we must first close our ranks so that we are surrounded by those who encourage us and whose advice is truly in our best interests, and not their own.
Then, harmful or costly habits must be eliminated as well as ongoing distractions, which ironically may be part of the solution in the first place. By doing so, stress and urgency are reduced, allowing balance and clarity for strategic decisions for the long and not short term.
In the end, resolving our circumstances are usually not quick fixes, but they often begin and end with examining, scrutinizing and working on ourselves before we work on the world.
2017 © Eric Christopher Webb
The WordsByWebb blog distributes a weekly quotation and reflection every Tuesday from National Black Authors Tour bestselling author and multi-talented writer Eric Christopher Webb (E.WEBB?!) to inspire, motivate and encourage personal development of its readers. The blog also regularly shares news, updates, new poetry and excerpts of the writer’s latest work. Webb, a spoken word artist, former Washington News Correspondent for Thomson Newspapers and nationally-syndicated SoulSearching columnist, has also been featured in movies, music videos, commercials and literary documentaries on HBO, BET Weekend’s Evening of Spoken Word, BET’s Rap City, Video Jukebox, The Party Machine, The Learning Channel, Voice of America and XM Radio. He is the author of five books, including "The Garvey Protocol: Inspired By True Events," a 2013 Phillis Wheatley Book Award Finalist for First Fiction and the National Black Authors Tour bestseller, "Love Letters, Death Threats & Suicide Notes." He has also contributed to numerous anthologies, journals and magazines.
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